Recently I planned another girl's night in, but this time with a twist. I planned on hosting a make-up party home-show (and then boozing it up afterward). Frankly I wasn't really up for hosting a show and, as with most of these types of at home shows, I felt pressured into doing so. But the products were pretty decent, so I figured I'd kill two birds with one stone and do both at once.
Except it was obvious, that like me, none of my friends wanted to deal with the pressure of buying a bunch of over-priced stuff they probably didn't really need. So I got excuses and non-responses from everyone. To be fair, I don't blame them one iota. In fact I think I owe them an apology for even inviting them in the first place. I'm glad most everyone declined, because it got me thinking about these home parties - which I've never given much thought to before. So when the consultant emailed me to ask for my opinion as to why I couldn't get more people to come I thought long and hard on it and wrote her back. Honestly.
On Sep 17, 2013, at 8:30 AM, Flippa Bird wrote:
I only have two people willing to come on Friday and I know they're both on a budget. Honestly I am too and I wasn't even planning on spending any money at my show. Since this party won't generate enough revenue to net me any freebies I'm going to go ahead and cancel. I'm so sorry, but I just don't think now is a good time for me to host a party. But I did enjoy meeting you and I'll be in touch in the future if things change. Thanks so much!
On Sep 17, 2013, at 9:34 AM, Consultant wrote:
I am so sorry to hear that! We would have had such a good time but I do appreciate you giving me advance notice. Judging from the responses you got from the people you invited, do you think another day would have worked better or do you think it's mainly the money? Just curious so I can help my hostesses have successful shows.
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On Sep 17, 2013, at 11:40 AM, Flippa Bird wrote:
Honestly I think it's a lot of things:
1. Most people I know, myself included, don't like getting invited to these types of shows (
2. So most people only go to these parties because they feel guilted into it - we feel like crappy friends if we don't support our girlfriends endeavors.
3. And trying to find two hours when you're a busy wife or mom or woman-in-general is really hard to do and we end up silently resenting our friends for putting us in this situation in the first place.
While I understand the concept of these companies, (empowering women to be at home entrepreneurs by selling projects that most women use), I think that they've become outdated. The majority of women who become representatives never achieve anything remotely close to the top players in the game because 1. the market becomes too saturated with consultants and 2. these programs have to be worked to the point of near fanaticism to achieve any kind of success. (Show + Guilt = Small Sales) x Resentment = Eventual Failure
I guess my point is this: We women want great products that work and we want them in the most convenient way, at the best possible price. We also want the rare girl time we DO get to be relaxing and guilt free. We want to enjoy our time together and not worry if we're spending enough or not to get our friends their freebies. And we don't like having to worrying if we're blowing our budget on products that we know we don't really need or that we can get elsewhere at a much better price... all in the name of helping a sister out.
I hope this reply didn't come across as rude or snarky, because that's not at all my intent. But you did ask for honesty, and since I can't give you a show I figure I can at least give you that. I do appreciate your time, I'm sorry I couldn't help you more, and I wish you the absolute best in all of your future endeavors.
On Sep 17, 2013, at 4:03 PM, Consultant wrote:
Not at all!! I do appreciate the honesty and I agree with a lot of what you said. I personally enjoy going to home shows (most of the time) and I tend to think everyone feels that way lol!! But I know a lot don't. I enjoy getting out of the house for an occasional night where I don't have to be a wife, mother, cook, housekeeper, etc. and getting to see people that I don't actually hang around with but still enjoy visiting with. I do normally feel like I should buy something but I don't usually have a problem with that because I can always find something I like. :). I have been on a tight budget in the past and would not go if I was unable to buy anything. I never felt resentful that I "needed" to buy something to support the hostess but I suppose some women would feel that way.
I do think we have a product that is different than other cosmetics and I don't think it's overpriced when it's compared to other products in its class. However, most people think cosmetics are all the same and aren't willing (or able) to try it.
I do agree that home shows are not as popular as they used to be and I think Facebook and texting has a lot to do with that. People have allowed electronics to take the place of conversations and they think that is a real relationship but nothing can take the place of actually talking on the phone or face to face. (This leads to a whole other conversation about teenagers and 20 somethings that have no idea how to carry on a conversation-which we can discuss later lol). I also think Internet shopping has affected them as well. Home shows used to be specialty items or things you couldn't get at the store but now you can get anything on the Internet!
Thanks again for your honesty and I do hope you liked our product enough that you will try more of it. I look forward to talking with you again soon!!
Have a great evening!!
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So my fellow ladies, what do you think? Do you think these types of sales parties are outdated, or do you think Facebook and texting have taken the place of real relationships, which is why they're not as popular? Do you think that even has anything to do with anything? Was I correct in my thinking on this subject or do I just sound bitchy? I'd love to hear your opinions on this!
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PS. I worked for a major cosmetics company and went to cosmetology school - (beauty school dropout). All cosmetics aren't created equal and in fact a lot of the less expensive ones work way better than the pricey ones. And I think that goes for pretty much every product in the world. Just some food for thought there.