Let me start by saying: I'm so very grateful for what I have.
I don't want what other people have and I'm not aspiring for anything other than my own dreams. I have food, clothing, shelter, and good health, which is so much more than the majority of people in this world have!! So it floors me to hear other folks, who have the very same blessings that I have, say things like, "If I had that *that being something that belongs to someone else* I'd be more appreciative of it than they are." As if someone who lives in a bigger home or drives a fancier car isn't appreciative or doesn't realize what they have. As if they somehow didn't work for it and it magically fell into their lap. As if...
This kind of thinking really pisses me off.
Here is what I know: I know people who have WAY more than I have. They in fancy custom built homes, they drive cars that cost as much as a house, they have dream jobs, they go on vacations most of us will never go on, they have more money saved in the bank than the average person makes in 5 years.... and they are among the most grateful people I know.
The majority of them have workedworkedworked and/or savedsavedsaved to be able to live the lifestyles they have. All of them have expressed many, many times how fortunate, grateful, and blessed they are. Not in a bragging way, but in a truly humble way. They know how good they have it and they are thankful for it.
Every single one of the people I know who've achieved this level of comfort in their lives come from humble beginnings. There were no silver spoons in their mouths at birth; they forged their own silver spoons with hard work and determination.
Some of them used outhouses growing up, some only ate as much food as the monthly food stamps would buy, some had no running water, and some had an unstable home life. Some were raised in middle class homes but had to pay their own way the day they turned 18. Some had many years of ho-hum lives while in pursuit of their gigantic sparkly dreams. But they all have this in common: They've always been grateful for what they did have and if they wanted more, then they worked really hard for it.
So when I hear "If I had that I'd be more appreciative of it than they are" I laugh. Because I know that those folks wouldn't be even remotely appreciative... no one with an attitude of entitlement ever is. Also it's difficult to truly appreciate something you didn't work for - that's why the majority of lotto winners end up broke. No, there would be no gratefulness because how can you be grateful for the big things when you're not even grateful for what you have now? And don't say you're grateful....you're not honestly grateful for what you currently have if you're worried that you'd be more grateful with someone else's crap.
In the same way that you shouldn't judge a shabby book by it's cover, you shouldn't judge a sparkly one by it's cover either. Moral of the story: Be thankful for the abundant blessings in your own life and if you want more then get off your ass and work for it.
I dream of being a photographer...
But for now I'm content to...
Snap the skies with my cell phone.
Pictures By: Me