Clothing size in the U.S. runs the gamut and can make shopping a frustrating experience. You may be a size 8 in one brand and a size 12 in another. Or you may even waffle between sizes within the same brand.
I've heard many women shy away from a brand or an article of clothing simply because they "don't want to be a size (insert negatively perceived size here)."
I'd like you to stop thinking in terms of size and start thinking in terms of what makes you feel good when you wear it.
Banish the thought of size from your head. It's just a random number that doesn't actually mean anything in the clothing industry because every company has their own sizing guidelines.
If you shop in a brick & mortar store I want you to disregard the tag size and start trying on whatever you think suits you and buy it because you love it on you, it's comfortable, and it fits well. And I DON'T want you getting depressed because the gorgeous dress/top/pants/whatever are 2 sizes bigger than what you think you should wear.
If you shop online I want you to go get yourself a measuring tape. Now measure your bust (across the fullest part), your waist (a couple of inches above your belly button), and your hips. Those are the measurements you'll shop by, not the size. And I DON'T want you to feel depressed if you have larger measurements than you thought you did or should.
Now I'm going to show you some real world examples of me (at the same size) wearing sizes Large, Extra Large, 1XL, 2XL and 3XL. That's 5 different sizes, ladies. And in some brands I'm a 4XL or even 5XL. Numerically I range from a size 12 to a size 20, depending on the brand. Keep in mind I'm the same exact size in all of these pictures... The only thing that changes is the SIZE LABEL.
I personally think I look just fine in all of these outfits. Now if I had been concerned with the size labels I never would have moved past the size large and I would have missed out on some lovely clothing that makes me feel beautiful & confident.
Just keep this in mind while shopping: You are not a number. You are not your clothes. You are a beautiful human being who deserves to feel comfortable in your daily routines. Whether that means jeans & a tshirt, a dress & heels, or something in between is up to you. But please don't limit yourself based on a silly number. Doing so is selling yourself short.